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    My child has been diagnosed, now what?

    Confused, unsure and in need of guidance

    Receiving a diagnosis for your child can be a stressfull event. The doctors (and other experts) can tell you things you would not like to hear. You might have to adjust your plans about your future you imagined with your child.

     

    Chances are, that you have a lot of questions. Where do you start?

     

    We have been in that situation and every parent that we know has been in this situation. That is why we started Rooting Today.

     

    You don't have to do it on your own when there are so many families and so many people that went through a similar situation before you.

     

    With our help and with the help of a simple tool you can learn yourself, you will be able to take control of your life and feel happy, free and empowered!

     

    This tool is called The Option Process® Dialogue.

  • The Option Process®

    Never lost, but in control

    Option Process Dialogue®

    This is a brief explanation of the underlying principle of the Option Process® Dialogue.

    It's about being aware of your beliefs.

  • The Process Explained

    Focus on what you can control

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    Stimulus

    Anything you focus your attention on (eg. a wedding, getting fired, a discussion with your spouse).

     

    We believe that the stimulus is always neutral. Most of the time we cannot control the stimulus.

    2

    Belief

    A thought and a conclusion about that stimulus (eg. weddings are old-fashioned/weddings are the most beautiful moments in someones life).

     

    This is our belief filter. We always process stimuli through our system of beliefs

    3

    Response

    The way we respond to the stimulus. We divide the response in feelings (eg. happy to get married) and behavior (eg. crying at the wedding).

     

  • We offer guidance so that you can support your family

    Option Process® Dialogue

    Stimulus-Belief-Response

    Above you see an explanation of the underlying principle of the Option Process® Dialogue and why it's such a unique way of helping you.

     

    When you are interested, please connect with us, using email or just call us.

     

    We are happy to answer all your questions in a 30 minute intake.

     

    We will explain the fundament of the Option Process® model and how we use the model to boost self-trust and to empower you. We will explain how the dialogue can help you in your specific situation.

     

    This intake is designed to offer you a clear perspective on what you can expect. These 30 minutes are free of charge.

     

    The dialogue itself will take 50 minutes, where you can explore (that is how we call it) absolutely anything. Our mentor will be listening in a way that is totally accepting of everything you say.

     

    The dialogue is designed around a very logical system, which you can see in the clip. We call that the Stimulus-Belief-Response model (SBR). We believe that whatever we focus our attention to (stimulus) is going through some kind of filter (the way we see things, beliefs) which lead to how we behave and how we feel.

     

    Now, the important piece is, we can always change our filters (beliefs) and when we change the way we look at things, we will change the way we feel and behave!

     

    The Dialogue is designed to get clear about our beliefs. We need to be aware of those beliefs, before we can decide if we want to change them. Beliefs can be adopted a while ago and you may not be aware that you hold that specific belief still today.

    The questions in a dialogue are meant to gain awareness around your belief system and to gain understanding about why you hold those beliefs.

     

    With this awareness and understanding you can change the way you feel like you did. Opening up possibilities for yourself!

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    Experienced Experts

    We have experience in having a child that "doesn't fit" in. We know what 24-7 care is about. In the last years we learned so much from other parents and we helped each other through 'difficult' times. Now we have collected that bundle of knowledge and experience in our foundation.

     

    During the last couple of years we came to know extensive ways of dealing with several challenges our families face when we want something that doesn't follow the mainstream.

     

    For example; In the Netherlands we can help with the formal way of applying for a personal care budget in the Netherlands. We can go with you to schoolboard meetings, we can go with you to meetings with care institutions.

    In other countries we can help you prepare for these kind of meetings and we can be there with Skype or other media.

     

    We also offer consults on your child's behavior. Are they biting, hitting, banging their heads, not want wanting to brush their teeth? Do they have a live-sleep pattern that is reversed.

     

    When you don't know what to do with your child, we will listen and help you help yourself and your child.

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    Global

    Through our years we have created a massive and global network of families all over the world. All with different challenges and solutions that worked for them.

     

    Do you want to know more about diets and their effects on your health and on so-called disorders like AD(H)D and Autism? Do you want to know more about supplements? Do you want to know more about autism in general and different programs? What about specific diets and the different effects on our children?

    Maybe you just need some school advice, or hear a story of another parent going through a time that her kid was being bullied in school.

     

    We have the families that tried all and everything and are willing to help you!

     

    Those families know that it can be difficult to seek help and that is why they are so willing to listen and offer you their experiences, wisdom and knowledge.

     

    You are not alone!

  • Control lies in our beliefs.

    in the clip and in the flowchart above you can see that your response to a stimulus can be different depending on our belief about that stimulus. This is great to realize, because it shows where the area of control of our feelings lies. It lies NOT with the stimulus, as so may of (including me) us might think. The stimulus is neutral. It's our beliefs that gives it meaning.

    Beliefs can be changed, adopted, discarded and can be be freely chosen.
     

    For example: You are attending a wedding. You are crying and feeling happy for your friend who is getting married. I might attend that same wedding, but i'm cranky and not socializing and not having a good time.

    Same stimulus, different response! How? Because we have different beliefs. You can hold a belief that your friend is entering a beautiful new phase in their life with their other-half. I can hold the belief that my friend will have much less time to go out with me and silently i am grieving this as a loss.

     

    The Option Process® Dialogue is a logical way of exploring and uncovering beliefs fueling our (mostly) unhappiness. When we know the stimulus and are aware of our response, we can ask questions that will lead us to the belief triggering our unhappiness. In my case I could discover that i hold the belief that i am losing a friend and when i do discover that it is my choice to maintain that belief or to maybe change that belief. I could change it into "i will gain another friend, because friends of my friend are my friends". With the latter belief I will experience joy and excitement.

     

    This can also apply on the challenges you face with your child. I used to feel lost about my daughters development. She is slower, she doesn't talk, she will not be able to take care of herself, what will happen when i am old.

    All different beliefs and thoughts about the stimulus (my daughter having autism and behaving in a different way one might expect from a child her age). When I became more aware of these beliefs, i started to change them. For example, I changed the belief "she will not be able to take care of herself" to "The future is unknown, maybe she will, maybe she will not be able to take care of herself, I will focus on being with her right here, right now.

    The latter belief helps me with accepting and connecting with my daughter, instead of worrying about her future.

     

    In the dialogue you will explore and uncover beliefs and with awareness you can start to gain control of your feelings and response.

    Brief example

    M: What would you like to explore?

    E: I would like to look at why i got so angry with my son last night

     

    M: What happened at the time you got angry with your son last night?

    E: well, where to start. It was 11pm and past his bedtime, but he was still gaming, so i told him that he had to stop and go to sleep, because he has school today. He ignored me and he just played his stupid videogame. Then I pulled the plug out of the TV or monitor, whatever and I yelled that there will be no more videogaming. He yelled back that he hates me and I yelled back that I hate him!!

     

    M: Why did you yell that you hate him?

    E: Because I just wanted it to stop, i dont want this, I raised him well and gave everything and this is how he deals with that. He should be grateful.

     

    M: What do you mean "he should be grateful"?

    E: Well, I mean, He is not showing any amount of gratitude when he ignores me. He is not saying "thank you, mom for taking care for me". He let me standing there as some worthless piece of filth, you can just ignore. [Raises her voice] "Well, not anymore, i won't be ignored any longer!!!!"

     

    M: Why did you raise your voice just now?

    E: Because I love my son, but I don't want him to treat me this way [Starts crying]

     

    M: Why are you crying?

    E: Because I didn't want to yell at him and say I hate him, I love him. He is my son, I love him.

     

    M: If you didnt want to yell at him yesterday, why was it that you did?

    E: I wanted him to listen to me

     

    M: Why did you want him to listen to you?

    E: because if he listens to me, that would mean i raised him right and I am a good mother. And when he doesn't, I am obviously not a good mother

     

    M: Why do you believe you are not a good mother, when he keeps playing his videogame?

    E: well, hearing myself say that, I actually don't believe I am a bad mother. I know I am doing the best I can. I believe I am a ok mother. At some things I can do better, but that doesn't mean, I am a bad mother.

    This is really helpful! I still want him to listen to me though.

     

    M:

     

    And so on.

     

    The dialogue ends when the agreed time has passed or the explorer states that they want to end the dialogue. When the dialogue comes to end, the mentor will ask one more question to the explorer

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